I once met someone who considered himself a comic actor. Consequently, he projected a persona of how he thought a comic actor in Hollywood should be. He turned it up so much so that it was unbearably irritating–making jokes every other sentence, talking about the crazy parties he's thrown, bringing around a new 20-year old girlfriend every time, and doing hard-sells of the projects he was "producing". He was also part of a tribe of like-minded people who created multi-day Coachella-/Burning Man-inspired events for their birthdays, complete with a new costume theme for each day (Games of Thrones, prep school uniforms, etc.).
Since I've known him, he's chased dreams of building a "Nasty Gal for men" clothing website with the hopes of selling it for millions, as well as starting a digital publishing house that would publish five million books in five years. (I wish I were exaggerating, but I'm not.) In fact, I'm sure he's hatching up a new million-dollar idea as we speak.
Anyway, I feel a little sorry for the poor fellow. It seems tiresome holding up such a heavy façade.
The truth is that he's actually a very uninteresting and uninspiring Canadian guy who is also quite possibly gay. (There are others who can vouch for that last bit there.) And it occurred to me that the reason why I had no interest in interacting with this person is because it was absolutely pointless. He was nothing more than a mask. Even when he was trying to be humble, it didn't register as genuine.
When people try hard to convince you of what they're all about, it's usually because they're not what they're saying they are. It's like those people who walk around with Buddha beads and have a pressing need to discuss spirituality and how much they meditate. You know, the ones who like to expound upon their "journey to enlightenment". This could very well just be an L.A. thing but, in any case, that in itself is the antithesis of spirituality.
If you want to see what being genuine looks like–and what not being genuine looks like–just watch an episode of Judge Judy. Judge Judith Sheindlin essentially cuts through the crap in her signature blunt and sarcastic manner. You'll see that there's an actual tangibility to the people who are telling the truth. The truth literally emanates from them. And for those who try to convince her of their innocence? She'll cut a b*tch.
There's a great quote by Krishnamurti, the philosopher, that states: "If we understand the problem, the answer will come out of it, because the answer is not separate from the problem." For example, if you're a stupid person, you cannot become intelligent by reading as many books as you can. You must first examine your own stupidity and, from that awareness, intelligence appears. Søren Kierkegaard puts it like this: "Face the facts of being what you are, for that is what changes what you are."
In short, I guess what I'm trying to say is: If you're an uninteresting and uninspiring Canadian guy, who's quite possibly gay, be that person and maybe, just maybe, something interesting and inspiring might spring from that.